Coherence
All the parts of you finding their right place in the natural order of all things.
I am full of inner conflicts.
There are parts of me that want to be free and parts of me that want to hide in a dark corner.
There are parts that are wild and parts that want desperately to fit in.
There are parts that are tired and just want to give up.
And there are parts that know anything is possible and can barely contain their excitement and love of life!
Then there is a Self, a Soul, that is so expansive and connected to eternity, she can hold it all. She loves and includes all these parts like a great mother.
And when I bring this love and acceptance to each and every part, these parts can relax and release the pain they are holding.
They can find ‘their right place in the natural order of all things.’
When this happens, my internal drama quiets. I feel my system settle and get calm. All that struggle to resist or justify those parts just vanishes into . . . peace.
There is coherence.
In this human endeavor there is no final completion of this process. It is an ongoing practice to bring all these parts back into the field of love, mercy and forgiveness, belonging and blessing.
So too with the Sexual Soul.
Our desires, longings and passions can often be the subjects of our shame, fear and banishment.
These internal places—or parts—belong. They have a powerful part to play in our wholeness. They come bearing gifts, if we open the door and welcome them to our table.
But it isn’t always easy to hold your own space for these parts. They can be so tangled up with deep trauma, incredible vulnerability, and layers of confusion and despair. It can be deeply dysregulating to be present with them on your own.
“I’ve been hiding and running from this part of myself for a long time,” one of my clients recently said to me.
She needed a guide who could help her unfurl her tightly-held desire and longing, and create the safety to be with all the parts that had been standing in the way.
And what’s possible when we have that gentle, attuned and skilled presence and guidance?
“Daven held that space for me with such honesty and compassion it gave me the courage to go to the internal places I had previously held back from. Hard places where I had armored up and become numb.”
‘I was able to soften, connect and deepen into myself.’
'I have been able to understand, embrace and care deeply for myself in ways that years of therapy never provide me.’
‘My intention was to explore my sexual energy. Our sessions are doing that and so much more: releasing grief and regrets, expanding embodiment, spirituality, love, connecting to possibilities, opening to desires of all kinds.’
Coherence
A master-flow
of a universe-river
where all of life
breathes as one.
A Practice for You
Here’s an audio meditation on Coherence to create the gentle space to be with all the parts of yourself.
I’d love to hear what you experience from the practice. Please share!
Four Questions for You (and Your Sexual Soul)
If you would like to experience the gentle, attuned and skilled guidance to be with your sexuality, longing and desire so you can ‘understand, embrace and care deeply for yourself in ways that years of therapy’ haven’t provided, I invite you to begin with asking yourself these four questions.
Pour yourself a cup of tea, turn off any distractions, get comfortable, and spend some time listening to this sacred and powerful part of yourself: your Sexual Soul.
If you share your answers with me, I’ll reply with a personal response via email with some gentle guidance, reflections, and suggestions for how I might be able to support you.